Omoide Ga Ippai
16 January 2007
It's only the 16th day into 2007 and it's already a disastrous start to the new year. The quick succession of bad news, first about Yoshizawa's graduation, and then about her brother's death has really set an ill tone to the mood. Meanwhile in my own little world I'm getting tired and frustrated at the events on FFXI. No matter how hard I try to get people to participate in Assault I'm left with constant absences. I'm sorry to the ones who do turn up for every run, this anger is not directed at you. I'm also sorry for that one time I was unable to log on due to a long re-installation. But when I get my hopes up that it might actually go ahead this time and someone doesn't show up it gets extremely irritating. It gets equally frustrating when there isn't an explanation to their absence, either on the night itself, nor the next day. I wouldn't be angry at all if they just posted a message on the forums to let us know that they wouldn't be able to make it. What's not good is when they don't say a single thing for days.
The worst thing is, our time is wasted sitting around for someone who isn't going to make an appearance. There could be a multitude of different things we could have been doing, IF only they'd informed us. Just a quick, "I'm sorry, I can't make it" would suffice. Goddamn it! I'm so sick of sacrificing my own time in the hopes that we can just have an hour and a half of assault, only to have it wasted. If I know I'm going to be needed at an event in a couple of hours time I don't decide take up an activity that might very well make me late. No, I occupy my time with something else that can be dropped quickly and without too much trouble. Because I have obligations. I have obligations to the other members who also sacrifice their time. Everyone's time. I'm so sick of it all! "Why should I bother?", I ask myself that a lot. Why the hell should I bother!?
Posted byHocchan at 4:17 am
LOVE the new sushi banner :) Looks great! I'm sorry to hear about your assault missions going awry, but that's the way it's always been. Things happen and people can't show up. FFXI is not a priority for a lot of people. It's a game to occupy some time. However, from a "friend" perspective, it would be nice if people appologized for not being there. Game or not, if someone is waiting for you to show up, and you don't, an appology is needed. An explaination on the other hand, isn't. A simple "I'm sorry I missed our engagement, but couldn't make it for personal reasons." Also, do the 30 minute rule...if the person doesn't show up in the first 30 minutes, then you can assume they won't. You guys should find backup players for those you can't always rely on and do it without the person. I wish I could join you, but I'm not really that keen on joining parties to quickly hit 75. Am hoping for an LS static. We'll see. This is a LONG comment. :) Thanks for the new banner!
I understand what you're saying. But I'm not complaining about people having prior engagements in real life, far from it. I'm not the sort of person who 'demands' that people must 100% show up, regardless of commitments. What I am complaining about is that from my perspective, it just seems like people can't be bothered to turn up. Like they don't consider it important enough to warrant their time. If they offered a reason, however simple, I wouldn't be jumping to that conclusion. But they don't, so what am I supposed to think?
As for replacing people, that's a good idea in principle. However, the whole appeal of this event was that we, members of the linkshell, would do it together. This is what I want. If I merely wanted the points I'd have joined an outside, full time dedicated Assault linkshell ages ago. But I didn't. Because I (maybe foolishly) still held the hope we would succeed in organising our own assaults. Just feels hurtful when my dream is seemingly snubbed without reason.
/sigh I don't like being this person I am now, I really don't. But it's how I feel right now. I'm sorry.
I agree with you. It was part of the reason I wasn't so gloomed when I quit. I felt like people didn't want to do things with me anyway because I wasn't level 75. I enjoy doing things with the LS just as anyone enjoys doing things with friends. It kind of sucks that more things can't be done as an LS regardless of your level and I wish I had more bravado to just suck it up and level in random parties. However, (agreeing with your sentiments) in game or not, if you tell your friend that you are going to meet up with them somewhere and then you don't show up, nor do you say anything about it the next time you see them, I'd assume that my friend didn't want to hang out with me, so I understand what you are saying. Even though we don't know each other in real life, we all consider each other "friends" and we should act like we would with any other friend. Nobody likes to feel "snubbed." but also, if you truly consider us friends, you've got to know that we love you and don't mean to hurt you on purpose.